Okay, I’m only on day 4 of my Simple Abundance journey and I’m already struggling. Or perhaps, I’m a rockstar already abundantly living in this area of my life? Today’s lesson was, “Life is Not a Dress Rehearsal,” and Sarah’s talking about how we should use the “good” china, get dressed up “just because,” and do our hair even when we’re planning on staying home.
Now I have been to homes where I know someone’s had to dust the pretty basket on the back of the guest bath toilet that’s full of fancy soaps they probably received as a gift at least a year ago. I also think of the funny sitcoms poking fun at people with furniture covered in vinyl. All evidence that people who save things for good, really do exist.
But, I don’t get it. Maybe I’m just to practical, but I wouldn’t spend money on something if I wasn’t going to use it. What’s the point? If something’s not getting used in my house it’s because I can’t find it or I’ve forgotten that I have it. Or it’s a kitchen apparatus that I know better not to touch for fear of disaster. (Thank God I married a man who can cook or my children would be dining on fast food daily or starving!)
Sarah gives the example that even though it takes a little extra effort to set the table with the “good dishes,” it makes the meal more enjoyable. I disagree. I don’t have “company towels” or clothes I save for special occasions. I love drinking the good wine even when it is for no special reason.
But I do have china that is rarely used. The reason is not that I’m saving it, but instead that it’s totally impractical for our family.
In my opinion, setting the table with the good china is a pain in the butt. I wouldn’t call that simple abundance. The hassle factor, come clean-up time, is way to high. We used it a lot more when it was just my husband and me, but now as our family’s grown, hand-washing a stack of dishes isn’t on the fun list. Sure, I’ll buy the “eat on real plates instead of paper” logic, but really my food won’t taste any better on a Lenox plate with a gold rim than it will on the Pfaltzgraff dishes we got as a wedding gift 17 years ago.
Sarah also mentions the example of getting dressed up for ourselves at home, even if we’re not planning on going out, because of how it makes us feel and behave. I agree somewhat. I know that on days I’m working from home, I’m much more ambitious and focused if I’ve taken my shower, gotten dressed and eaten some breakfast, compared to the days I sit in my pajamas until 3 pm. But to this working mom who scrambles to get 3 kids and herself out the door on time every morning, a day to sit in my P.J.s and relax is simply an abundant luxury!
In my vague memory, this year long journey will help clarify what things bring me joy and which things don’t really matter. A good example is that while I do have some pretty teacups from my grandma that I do use when I think of it, I’m more of a big old coffee mug kind-a girl by heart. I like that my coffee stays hot longer & requires fewer refills.
Hey friends & family, please feel free to call me out on this if you can think of something I don’t use, that I could and should be enjoying! Do you all have something you’re saving for good? Please share it in the comments below and enlighten me as to why. It might help trigger my mind as to something I’m holding back on that I could be enjoying!